Friday, January 30, 2009

profile of a sociopath

  • glibness and superficial charm
  • secretive, manipulative and conning
  • authoritarian and Controlling
  • grandiose sense of self
  • pathological lying
  • lack of remorse, shame or guilt
  • shallow emotions
  • incapable of real human attachment to another
  • need for excessive stimulation
  • callousness/lack of empathy
  • rationalizes the pain they inflict on others
  • poor behavioral controls/impulsive nature
  • irresponsibility/unreliability
  • not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause.
  • does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed.

                                      *The above traits are based in part on the psychopathy checklists of H. Cleckley and R. Hare.

Stereo MC's Connected

Thursday, January 29, 2009

the preferred method

they ”often pick energetic, loving, successful, passionate people. they seek out in others what they lack, then begin the process of appropriating what the other has for themselves. in this sense they are true emotional vampires, robbing their victims of their personality, their energy, their passion for life - metaphorically killing them.

their preferred method though, in the end, is to have the victim self-destruct, allowing them to walk away in triumph seeking sympathy for what they've had to endure with this crazy person.

- sandra l. brown how to spot a dangerous man before you get involved

Weezer Undone

Sunday, January 18, 2009

the joy of pain

i healed my back last night. after four days of back spasm, then hit-by-a-truck pain, i decided to just heal it. so i did.

awhile back, i set the intention to joyfully embrace the totality of the human experience. so, uh, pain is a big part of that experience, right? rather than embrace it, i’ve spent nearly my entire lifetime actively trying to avoid it. physical pain, emotional pain, financial pain, you name it. my decisions have most often entirely been based on the attempt to avoid the myriad of painful possibilities laying in wait for me out there in the world through logical and careful planning. well, at least that what i called it for a long, long time. now i just call it fear.

given that all that logical and careful planning hasn’t worked out too well for me, last night i decided to just dive in for the first time in my life and embrace, rather than avoid physical pain. so i did, and done so, the pain left – left my body and left me in awe.

oh the gratitude i have for that pain now, because when it left and i finally was able to begin to stretch, it was as if i was moving for the very first time. like an infant just out of the womb suddenly aware of the seemingly boundless range of motion available after being curled up for so long, i could see-feel my muscles like the drawings in an anatomy book. i was aware of each one individually unbound, moving, stretching – surface muscles sliding over deeper muscles. unglued, unstuck. i could feel each vertebrae articulate as i slowly stretched my spine. my body felt completely new and joyful in its movement. brand new, one of the most freeing and joyful experiences i can remember in my life.

Sunday, January 11, 2009


once she set her intention
miracles began to organize themselves all around her

- from the art of and used with permission of

Shiloh Sohia McCloud